A Word document of this article, which was published in the Brattleboro
Reformer on Friday May 23, 2008, is available here.
THE
DEATH OF JOSHUA SEGAR
by
Richard Davis, © 2008
May 23, 2008
BRATTLEBORO- Newspaper obituaries provide a few glimpses into
people’s lives. Friends and relatives receive news of a death
and
the details of plans for funerals and memorial services. Rarely, if
ever, do obituaries describe the way a person died beyond a brief
mention of an accident or a lingering illness. Perhaps it is too morbid
for most people to contemplate, but how we die is just as important as
how we live.
“Joshua Mark Segar, 84, died peacefully at his home
on
Tuesday, December 11, 2007. Mr. Segar (a.k.a. Josh, Joshie, Jeff, Joe
or Mark) was born in London, England on Dec. 21, 1922. At the age of
13, in order to help support his family, he was forced to leave school
and was apprenticed as a barber.
During World War
II he served in the Rifle Brigade for five years without a break,
fighting in North Africa, Italy and Germany. On his return to London,
he was able to open his first barber shop. On weekends he played drums
in a dance band and as a session musician for Stephane Grappelli, among
others.
In 1948 he married
Lily Solley, the love of his life. Segar became a successful small
business man, eventually owning a chain of hairdressing salons and a
flourishing electric shaver supply and repair business.
He was the
president of the British National Hairdressing Federation and the
Hairdressing Council for many years. He loved opera, traveled
extensively and was a lifelong learner of art and art history. He was
kind, thoughtful, humorous, hard working, loving and generous, a
devoted husband and loving father, grandfather and great-grandfather.
In 2004 he moved
from England to Brattleboro in order to be closer to his children.
During three years of declining health, he showed great fortitude along
with his ever-present wit.”
Reading Segar’s obituary, we
can get a sense
of what kind of life he led. But in order to understand this complex
man it is just as important to understand how he died. That part of his
life began with the onset of symptoms of Parkinson’s Disease.
Parkinson’s Disease is a
progressive
degenerative neurological condition that results in an array of
symptoms which can vary in severity among individuals. It is not
considered a life-threatening disease in the strictest sense. Segar
coped with the disease for a few years, but in 2007 the symptoms became
severe and the quality of his life was deteriorating.
His wife of 55 years had been dead for
two years and
he told his family that he always thought he would die before his wife.
Segar enjoyed a loving relationship with his family in the U.S. His 56
year old son Adrian and his family in the Brattleboro area, and his 47
year old daughter Alison and her family in Burlington, stayed close to
their father.
His greatest pleasure came from his family and
perhaps
that is why Thanksgiving marked a turning point for him. According to
Adrian, “We spent this Thanksgiving at our home--my wife, my
dad,
my older daughter and her family. Thanksgiving is our favorite family
holiday, but this Thanksgiving was different. Now dad could barely
swallow, he was in serious pain much of the time, and was worried about
his incontinence. His fear of choking was too much for him to enjoy
eating his food, cut up as it was into tiny, almost indistinguishable
bits, and his other Parkinson's symptoms overwhelmed his ability to
delight in his two adorable great-granddaughters. After five hours,
miserable, he asked me to drive him back to his apartment.”
“The next morning he called me. In a
trembling
voice, he told me that "he didn't want to continue like this", and that
he wanted to stop eating and drinking.”
This was not a quick decision on the part of
Joshua Segar.
He was losing the pleasure of being alive and he wanted to be able to
have control over the manner and time of his death. He did some
research and found a method to end his suffering that he believed would
cause the least amount of pain for his family, while allowing him to
end his suffering in a perfectly legal way.
It’s called terminal dehydration or
“patient
refusal of nutrition and hydration” (PRNH) and is believed to
be
a commonly used method for a person to end their life. Statistics are
nearly impossible to find, but there is a great deal of anecdotal
evidence from health care professionals that terminal dehydration is
relatively common.
This writer, a registered nurse, has cared for a
number of
people over the past 30 years who have chosen this way to end their
lives. The public perception of withdrawing food and water is one of
great suffering. The reality is quite different. Most people who stop
eating and drinking in an effort to end their lives die peacefully and
are given the time to say goodbye to friends and family.
According to Ira Byock, M.D., one of the most
respected
experts in the field of hospice and palliative care, writing in a 1995
article in the “American Journal of Hospice and Palliative
Care”, “The general impression among hospice
clinicians is
that starvation and dehydration do not contribute to suffering among
the dying and might actually contribute to a comfortable passage from
life. In contrast the general impression among the public and
non-hospice medical professionals is that starvation and dehydration
are terrible ways to die.”
Byock goes on to explain, “A more
extensive review
of the scientific literature relevant to starvation and dehydration
appears in an article by Sullivan entitled, “Accepting Death
without Artificial Nutrition or Hydration”. Published studies
of
healthy volunteers report that total fasting causes hunger for less
than 24 hours. Ketonemia (the burning of the body’s fat
stores)
occurs and is associated with relief of hunger and an accompanying mild
euphoria. When ketonemia is prevented by small feedings hunger
persists, explaining the obsession with food commonly observed during
semi-starvation occurring in times of famine or war. Animal studies
also suggest that ketonemia may have a mild systemic analgesic effect.
Experimentally induced dehydration in normal volunteers may report
thirst, yet this sensation is consistently relieved by ad lib sips of
fluid in cumulative volumes insufficient to restore physiologic fluid
balance. One study of healthy subjects suggests there is a decrease in
the severity of experienced thirst associated with older age.”
Another critically important aspect of terminal
dehydration is that it does not require professional help and it does
not trigger any legal issues. As Byock explains, “Unlike
physician-assisted suicide, refusing to eat or drink is a purely
personal act. While it may require information, the decision obviates
the need for physicians, nurses or other agents of society to
participate. After adequate discussion, and in the context of continued
caring, at some point the patient's choice becomes "none of our
business".
Adrian collected his thoughts after hearing his
father’s desire to end his life and wrote, “When
dad told
me of his desire to die by stopping eating and drinking I was shocked,
but I knew I had to take him seriously and I knew right away that he
must have been thinking about this for a long time. Although his
Parkinson's had caused several short-term memory issues, his "big
picture" thinking had always been and was still in superb shape. I told
him that I took his desire very seriously, but we needed time to
understand the implications, and we wanted to support him to the best
of our ability, and we needed to learn what that support might entail.
I asked him to wait while we did this research, and he agreed. He asked
me to work as quickly as possible.”
“For the next two weeks my wife and I
worked hard.
We discovered that dad's desire is called Voluntary Terminal
Dehydration (VTD), that it is legal throughout the U.S., and, provided
that the requestor is competent to freely make the decision and is not
clinically depressed, VTD is medically ethical and should be supported
with appropriate palliative care. We also learned that VTD, when
supported with palliative care, seems to involve minimal
discomfort.”
“After discussion, including a session with dad alone, Dad's
GP,
neurologist, and cardiologist all supported his decision, and his GP
authorized hospice care through the Visiting Nurse Association and
Hospice of Vermont and New Hampshire.”
Adrian’s sister Alison reacted
differently to her
father’s decision. She is a social worker and said that her
father’s decision was ethically problematic for her as a
daughter
and a social worker.
Alison also believed that there was a high
probability
that her father may have been depressed and she felt he should have
been treated for depression before carrying out his plan. She wrote a
letter to her father asking him to try anti-depressants and to see
Parkinson Disease experts before going through with his plans for death.
She may have never fully come to terms with the
plan for
voluntary terminal dehydration, but she respected her
father’s
courage saying, “I think my dad was incredibly brave to do
what
he did, whether he was depressed or not.”
In response to her letter to her father he wrote
back,
“Dear
Alison,
Thank you for your nice letter.
I do not want to take anti depressants.
I want to carry on with my plan to end
my life soon.
I love you deeply with all my heart.
Love, Dad”
Joshua Segar’s last meal was his
favorite, calves
liver. His own personal last supper was a farewell to food and drink.
He died one week later. He and his family were comforted by the care
they received from the local hospice, visiting nurses and private
caregivers.
Alison noted that when her father made his final
decision,
“… he became animated, as if he was going on a
trip. He
called friends and relatives about his decision.” Joshua
received
necessary comfort care with low doses of morphine and ice chips to
soothe his dry lips and mouth.
Byock has had many years of experience with death
and
dying and his perspective is particularly relevant in the Segar
family’s situation. “Clinically, for a number of
people at
the very end of life, the decision to refuse food and fluid may not
arise from depression or emotional denial as much as from a felt sense
of "being done". Most such persons I have encountered one way or
another expressed a sense that eating or drinking were no longer
relevant to their situation. They were far along in a process of
withdrawal, having turned their attention inward or "beyond". Even here
the option of PRNH has important advantages over complying with a
patient's request to be killed, for it allows the clinician's attention
to remain focused on relief of suffering -- physical, psychosocial and
spiritual. It requires -- or frees -- the clinician to remain vigilant
for treatable depression and to remain, in humility, open to the
possibility of unexpected opportunities for the person to again
discover value in the life that is waning.”
The Segar family believed that their father died
in
comfort. There were no indications to them that he experienced pain or
suffering during his last days. He became weaker and, after three days,
he drifted into his final sleep. Alison was with him when he died and
she said, “It was peaceful and it was beautiful.”